I had always believed that having a sibling is extremely important. But when my first born came into my life, that belief started to wither. I, no longer felt, we needed another child to make one happy family. My first born more than enriched every part of our lives. But some 6 years later, don’t know exactly what made me change my mind. Was it the abortion that left me feeling guilty, or was it the happy sibling pictures my friends posted online that looked super adorable? Here I am, 6 years and 10 months later with a little infant in my arms.
Well, this is not about my journey from a parent to one to a parent to two! This is about things that second time parents don’t tell anyone:
1) You won’t document everything: Baby bump pictures, first smile, first yawn, first romper, first eye contact… These are a few of the things that first time parents document but you will ease out with the second born. It’s not about loving someone less but not feeling the desperate desire to record every single milestone.
2) You will not be too uptight about hygiene and other things: With the first born, you want to do everything right. Not that you want to let go with your second born but somehow you don’t see your child as defenseless as your first time. You don’t fear germs as much – while you will dutifully sterilise bottles, soothers, you may not be too finicky about doing it all on your own (or under direct supervision). You want to let go and rely more on others to carry out some ‘very important’ tasks.
3) You won’t binge shop for the second one: Twenty rompers in different colours and styles, fancy diaper bag, imported diapers and the most expensive anti-rash cream – this is how you prepare for your first born but your second born will most definitely have hand-me-downs from your first born or from your close friends. You may even throw their clothes to be washed along with your other laundry.